How to face false accusations with calm ?

People sometimes vent their anger over you for no reason and when caught in that situation with some one who has some power over you , it is more difficult to react in the same way as they behave with you because if it is your boss, for example, you may have to think of your family and other problems before yelling back at him. So, you should not let yourself get drowned by that flood of words but think that flood passes either side of you without touching you. Just, in those moments, say to yourself the cosmos wants to test your solidity and that will also be a moment of the past one day. You have to tell to yourself that the aggressor  acts out of lack of self-control and that it is more he who suffers from powerlessness than you; You should also know that you are acting  out of a clear CHOICE : the choice to be unperturbed and to keep cool. IT IS YOUR CHOICE : you can either choose not to react to aggressive words or get enchained like a slave by them. It is up to you to decide. You are really free only when others  can no more make you dance to their tune. You are really free only when your aggressor can not make you react the way he expects you to react.  You are independent when your mood is no more connected to that of others who come to verbally abuse you. When others' influence is zero over the way your heart beats or your blood rushes to your head , then you are completely FREE.  You are now like an island which remains calm even though waves unleash their fury on it's shores. You are independent and disconnected and insulated from the heat of anger reaching your inner space. Your aggressor will be spellbound before your calm and serenity. But, knowing his words don't have any impact over you, he will be confused. You should never want even secretly inside you that others should speak, act and behave in a manner you would like them to speak, act and behave with you. No expectation from people is the ultimate remedy to not being hurt by anybody. You don't want anything from them and you observe them as they are without trying to inject your will to reform them, to modify them as per your desires. If you can just let them be themselves before you and if you are not disturbed by their harsh words, then only you will be really FREE.Sometimes, people with whom you live may also criticize you for petty things daily but keep in mind that they have the freedom to show you their feelings because they want to make you understand something. Even if they are wrong and you are right, that does not give you the right to yell at them; you should again remain silent and let them give vent to their feelings; whatever explications you may give, that is going to be useless and why should you want to convince that you are right anyway ? Don't have that secret and incessant urge to convince everybody to see things as you want them to see. Why you want at all that others should be like you want them to be ? AND why you are so tied to them like a slave and why are you so dependant on their words whatever content they may contain ? They are just words; people may pour on you tons of unpleasant words and if they slide over you as dewdrops on a lotus leaf, then no body can make you sad and depressed.and another thing : we should not expect others to be how we like them to be and how we want them to speak and behave with us but accept as they are and never interfere when they verbally abuse you just let them live as they want to live and not as we want them to live according to our desires ; in that way, we can observe them like a scientist who looks at an ant in a laboratory; we are FREE WHEN OTHERS have no impact on our mood swing and our feelings raising and falling . We should not let others decide the feelings we will have but never have such feelings because of others. WE should remain like a marble before criticism and never react but keep smiling. Just keep listening to someone's criticsm as if they speak of some one else. You should also know that ii can come only with training; so , if your wife or your husband criticizes you next time, use that opportunity to test your solidity. Remember : even if you are right and they are wrong, you should keep silent as if you are wrong and they are right.